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After
a while you'll get very familiar with the routine, and be able to do EFT
anywhere, any time. But for the first few times, give yourself enough
time to try it out thoroughly.
Before
you even start, completely read through this page, tapping on the points
as you go, so you become familiar with where they are. Then, print out
this summary sheet, so you
can glance at it to stay on track.
The
first time, you'll want to try something fairly small - feeling angry
or upset because of something that just happened, or some minor pain or
discomfort in your body. (Don't try something big till you're more
familiar with the process. And with serious issues, please consult a therapist
for expert help.)
Find
a place you can sit quietly without being disturbed.
For
now, you're just going to use the Shortcut sequence, which goes:
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Identify
the feeling
Close
your eyes and become aware of how you're feeling - this may be an emotion
or a physical feeling. Write down the feeling - "anger" or "sadness"
or "pain in my right temple".
Rate
the SUDS
Get
a sense of the intensity - we call this the SUDS rating - subjective units
of distress scale. If 10 is the worst it could be, and 0 is no distress
at all, where would you lie on the scale? Write it down. (If you can't
put a number on it, use your own method of measuring eg. big, medium or
small; or holding your hands apart to indicate how big, which is especially
helpful for children.)
The
Setup (#1)
While
tapping, it works best if you say your phrases out loud, at least while
you're learning.
You'll
notice that there are two parts to the setup - the first defines
the problem, and the second is a self-acceptance phrase. This acknowledges
the problem, but states that the problem is NOT you, you are OK.
Different therapists use different versions of the self-acceptance
phrase, and you might find yourself using something different again.
Whatever feels right for you is just fine. Some examples:
- I
fully and deeply accept myself (which we'll use for now)
- I
deeply and completely accept myself
- I
deeply and profoundly love and accept myself
- I'm
a good girl and Mummy loves me (for children)
- I'm
a cool dude (for adolescents)
The
setup sequence is an opportunity to voice the problem out loud and
see whether it sums up the feeling accurately. If it doesn't feel
quite right, try rewording it. (If you can't get it right, but don't
know why, don't worry, you can change it in the next round to be
more specific.) For now, just get started.
Tapping
this point also corrects for psychological reversal (PR), which
is when consciously you want one thing, but your subconscious wants
the opposite. Since we don't know whether we're affected by PR or
not, we correct for it as part of the sequence.
The
Karate Chop Point (KC) is located on the
fleshy part of the outside of your hand (either hand) between the top
of the wrist and the base of the little finger ie. the part of your hand
you would use to deliver a karate chop. If you slap the whole side of
the hand with an open palm or the flat of your fingers, you’ll get
it.
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tapping on the Karate Chop point, repeat your setup phrase 3 times
- eg. "Even though I have this angry feeling,
I fully and deeply accept myself." |
The
Sequence
(#2)
In
this section, you use what we call the reminder phrase. This is the definition
of the problem from the setup phrase. This time, we tap with the index
and second fingers, instead of the flat of the hand.
The
points we tap on in this section are:
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EB = Beginning of the Eye Brow (By the
bridge of the nose)
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SE
= Side of the Eye (On the bone bordering the outside corner of the eye)
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UE = Under the Eye (On the bone under the
eye, directly below your pupil.)
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UN = Under the Nose (On the small area
between the bottom of your nose and the top of your upper lip)
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Ch = Chin (Between the point of your chin
and the bottom of your lower lip, on the crease)
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CB
= Beginning of the Collar Bone (The junction where the breastbone, collarbone
and the first rib meet. Follow your collarbone along from the outside
edge till you get to the knob on the inside end).
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UA = Under the Arm (On the side of the
body, at a point even with the nipple (for men) or in the middle of
the bra strap (for women). It is about 4 inches below the armpit.)
Using
your index and second fingers, tap gently
about 7-9 times (don’t worry about counting, just as long
as it takes to say your reminder phrase) on each of the tapping
points, while repeating the reminder phrase eg “angry
feeling” |
Breathe
You
may have noticed changes in your breathing as you tapped through the points.
Or you may have sighed at some stage. This is a sign that energy is shifting.
When
you've finished tapping, take a deep breath in, and let it go, releasing
any tension in your body. (Repeat this after each round of tapping.)
Re-evaluate
the SUDS
Re-rate
the SUDS on that specific feeling, and compare it to the SUDS you wrote
down. Write down the new SUDS.
If
it has gone down but not completely gone, move onto the next step (#3).
If
it's completely gone, check to see if there are other aspects and tap
on those (#4).
If
it seems the same, or has got worse, check to see if the feeling
is now a different one, eg. anger has changed to sadness, or the
pain has moved to another part of the body (see Chasing
the pain). This is what is called Changing Aspects.
Write
down the new feeling, so you can come back to it later, then focus back
on the original feeling. If that has gone, start work on the new feeling
(#4). If it's still there, keep repeating #3 till it's completely clear,
then start on the new feeling.
If
the feeling isn’t completely gone
(#3)
Now
we want to work on what's left of the feeling. So we add the words "still
have some" to the setup, and "remaining" to the reminder
phrase.
Repeat
the whole shortcut again, using the slightly modified setup and
reminder phrase. Eg.
- Setup:
"Even though I still have some of this angry feeling,
I fully and deeply accept myself."
- Reminder
Phrase: “Remaining angry feeling”
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If
the feeling still isn’t completely gone
(#4)
Check
in with the feeling again, and see if the setup and reminder phrase are
still accurate. If the original phrase is still accurate, repeat #3.
If
you go through Steps 1-3 several times with no change, check out the If
EFT Doesn't Work page.
But
if the feeling has shifted (eg. from anger to sadness), or the feeling
is the same, but about something different, adjust the phrase.
Repeat
the whole shortcut again, using the new setup and reminder phrase.
Eg.
- Setup:
"Even
though I have this sad feeling, I
fully and deeply accept myself."
- Reminder
Phrase: “Sad
feeling”
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Make
sure all aspects are clear
It’s
important to continue till the feeling has completely eased – ie.
down to zero intensity. For best results, make sure every feeling that
has come up is down to zero.
Once
you get familiar with the routine, I suggest you go to
Gary Craig's website
and download the free manual, so you can become more proficient.
(Images
on this page are from this manual)
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